To help ourselves and also the people who are close to us, firstly we need to detect a certain problem and then we can start to find solutions to the issue. Sadly, due to our modern often stressful lifestyles, we end up with low self-esteem.
Thankfully, like any other problem we face in life, there are ways to fix this, if we can detect them in due time. We are going to be looking at some of the signs or characteristics that can tell you if you or someone close to you has low self-esteem.
1. SELF DEPRECATING
This is one of the most common traits among people with low self-esteem and you should closely think if you do this or not. This happens when someone passes a compliment towards you, but, you are unable to accept it.
Instead of accepting the compliment, you turn it into a joke or avoid the topic completely. This scenario is also often stated as deflecting. We need to be able to approve of our achievements otherwise, in the long term, it will slowly eat away our self-esteem.
When a person has low self-esteem, they try to prove their “dominance” among others by using unnecessary force on an individual who is unable to defend himself/herself. This is a clear characteristic that is displayed in people with low self-esteem.
Violence is never the answer to anything. We must find a proper way to deal with our low self-esteem issues, rather than bully the innocent people around us.
3. HARD TIME ADMITTING THAT THEY ARE WRONG
People with low self-esteem have a hard time admitting that they are wrong in a situation because they think that it makes them look weak in front of others. They never admit their mistakes which result in people trying to avoid them.
You need to understand that we are human beings and there are times that even the best of us make mistakes. If we ignore these mistakes or worse, deny them then it hurts us the most rather than others.
4. NEGATIVE CRITICISM
It is very hard for people with low self-esteem to tolerate negative criticism from others. It is difficult for them since they already think so lowly of themselves and when other people critique them, they are not able to take it productively.
5. NEEDING TO PROVE THAT THEY ARE BETTER
They always tend to try to prove that they are better than others at any given task that approaches them. They can not take it lightly when someone is better at them and therefore, will always try to “one-up” the other individual.
This trait can often be found in people who are lacking self-esteem to a certain degree. They require validation from other people to approve that their actions or appearance is “up to the mark.”
7. LACKS RESPONSIBILITY
These people tend running from tasks that require them to be responsible. They will always try to avoid high profile jobs or tasks because they know that the jobs will come with the need to be very responsible. They will try their best to pass off the job to someone else but they will do so, very discretely.
8. PEER PRESSURE
These types of people will often be influenced by peer pressure. Since people with lower self-esteem always seek validation from others, therefore, they are always more likely to do what others are doing or what others want them to do.